April 15, 2020 - Eduscan Kids

First Aid For Emotional Well-being

In today’s world we all are mainly concerned about our physical well-being and we assure that we actually address it at top priority. For instance a back pain or a toothache will be addressed immediately. However, in this process our emotional well-being takes a backseat. Things that worries you or has probably disturbed does keep piling up within you. Physically you might manage to ignore it, but you know that deep inside it is bothering you and is building up, which might result in depression or an emotional break-down. So here are a few important points that will help you to give first-aid for your emotional well-being:

Pay attention to your emotional well-being: Identifying what is your stress about? Or lately what all has been your concerns? This is the first step. You need to identify the emotions you are going through and acknowledge the same. You can’t keep saying its’ okay, or maybe I am tired that is why I am feeling low, or I don’t know why I am bored or irritated, I will be fine. Acknowledge your feelings, accept if you feel lonely, hurt, offended, frustrated, pressurized, etc.
Redirect your gut feeling: You now need to analyze the cause of your emotions that has been bothering you time and again. When you think upon it, you must jot down what all is within your control, and you can manage to change it. On the other hand do jot down what all is beyond your control. Thus, you need to understand that your focus should shift only on things that are under your control and work towards it, rather keep paying attention to those things that are beyond your control. This will help you to take the right action with a positive approach.
Focus on your self-esteem: Believe in yourself. Remember ‘nobody can hurt you without your consent’. And this statement must be the mantra to sustain the balance of your emotions and help you to build your emotional well-being. If you are giving your consent, then you are inviting yourself to the depression zone which can only harm your emotional well-being. So, let any external stimuli not affect your emotional balance.
Break the spiral around you: Keep yourself up, and be your best friend. It is rightly said that ‘Even God cannot help you, if you don’t help yourself. Engage yourself in activities that you always wished to do, but were not able to manage due to your busy schedule. Think of taking up an online course or developing your knowledge and skills. These days e-learning platform is actually doing wonders. So, get going on Google and do your bit of research.
Do Self-healing: If something has given you a deep wound, then do not dwell into it. Just as we take immediate measures to assure that our physical wounds are healed as quickly as possible, similar approach should be towards our emotional wounds. For instance, if your best friend has said something that has disturbed you, then what do you think will make you feel better? Probably, if he/she sends you an apology message or gives a call to apologize, you will start feeling much better. However, we need not wait for it to happen, rather start believing so, and do a role-play. Visualize yourself as that friend and draft an apology note from him/her to you. And, then when you will read it aloud to yourself, I am sure you will start feeling much better, as you have just managed to heal your emotional wound yourself.
Find meaning in the losses: When you lose something which is really important in your life, your first thought must be to evaluate that what are the good things that will come into my life as a consequence of this loss. Then you need to ponder upon those things, and assure to make the most of the opportunity that life has given you. Look at ways to turn this obstacle into opportunity. So, basically your focus should divert on the positive aspects. And the key to this is ‘always focus on the half full, rather than focusing on half empty’.

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HELP YOUR ADOLESCENT TO HANDLE THEIR EMOTIONS WHILE THEY ARE GOING THROUGH MOOD SWINGS AT HOME.

We all know that adolescent is the age of stress and storms, popularly known as “teenage”. So having a growing adolescent at home, can be challenging at times. You might have often observed that your growing teenager might suddenly display a loss of appetite or be withdrawn or may be have excessive or too little sleep. You will see that at this age, these growing adults go through a lot of mood swings. Hence, as a parent it is very important to monitor their behavior closely. We need to be really careful before making a statement such as, “Oh, come on grow up, you are no more a baby” or “Oh, please you need not do any such thing, you are just a kid.”

When we as an adult make such comments, it leaves our adolescent feel more anxious. Rather try to understand their personality and guide them. It is essential to have immense patience while you are dealing with these young adults. As grownups we if we lose our patience, then what do we expect of our teenager who is observing us, especially when they are around us at home. We need to be a role model for them.

Secondly, today’s adolescent needs to be introduced to a concept called ‘delayed gratification’. Delayed gratification, or deferred gratification, describes the process that a person undergoes when the he or she resists the temptation of an immediate reward in preference for a later reward. Without delay gratification there is no patience nor endurance. Basically, it is described as the process that the person undergoes when he/she resists the temptation of an immediate reward in preference for a later reward/result/ action.

Hence it is important to help our children practice this concept. For instance if your adolescent is being rigid at times, when he/she wants to meet a friend, or watch a movie or play a game, or go out for dinner, etc. then it’s time for you to be patient and calm down your child too. Tell him let’s talk and then I will surely agree to what you say. Then ask him/her the reasons of making things happen at that point of time and evaluate how it would make a difference if certain things are addressed at a little later.

At this point it is very important to be a good listener and acknowledge your adolescent’s feeling.
Refrain from making any sort of negative comments or something that he/she would not like.
Discuss what are his/her likes and dislikes and plan how can you involve in supporting their likes and encourage them to develop their knowledge skills as per their likes.
Spend some time sitting with your adolescent to make a daily planner. Your engagement will give them a lot of motivation to be more responsible and help them to grow up as effective teenagers.
Give them liberty to access social media and allow them to have their own space. But at the same tie maintain your rapport and show them that you trust them, which itself will help them to refrain themselves from indulging in any such activities that will hinder their personal growth.
Sit and do research on what are the various online courses available which will help them nurture their interest and prepare them better for future.
Help them to brainstorm how they can make the most out of this time at home, by using e-learning platform and get the best online learning support in the comfort zone of their home.
And lastly, do not forget to teach your adolescent that “Lifetime regrets are more painful than delayed gratification.”

Are you facing a challenge dealing with the children with special needs at home?

With the ‘Stay at Home’ compulsion, I am sure many parents might be going through frustration, as they have to manage kids with different level of challenges at home. Different children are impacted at a different level, it could be mild, moderate, and severe or some may even be profoundly impacted. Hence as a parent, we first need to understand the level and need of our child.

Next, it is most important to change our mindset, as we take it for granted that ‘these kids with challenges cannot manage to learn on an e-learning platform’. In fact, being an educational psychologist I have tried and tested online learning with our lovely children and was truly happy to see how beautifully various online training programs work to support these children with challenges and help them developing their knowledge and skills. With the present generation, I believe that e-learning is much more effective than in-class learning. So, do ensure that even these children get an exposure as any other children does.

So, the key to this is, a little bit of research on Google, to find out what sort of online learning support can be provided for the children with special needs at home. One click and you will see a menu of amazing online learning programs and online therapies too. Then, why do we refrain these lovely children from having access to what they deserve and what they need? So make the most of all the available online support like, online behavioural therapy, speech therapy, occupational therapy, etc.

As you manage to identify the need of your child and give him/her the experience of online learning support it will not only help him, but even help you to develop the necessary skills, as you will be a silent supporter at the back-end. Thus, ultimately it will nurture you as a parent too. And I strongly believe that no one can be a better teacher/therapist than a mother.

Thus being a passionate educational psychologist, I have assured that my team of experts and educators is well equipped and prepared to give the best possible online learning support to these lovely children. And considering the fact that these kids are at home in their comfort zone, we have given them the flexibility of time, which allows the learner to choose any of the available time slots between 9.am to 8.pm. from Sunday to Thursday.

Apart from this, I am sure there might be many hyperactive kids at home, who probably happen to be restless when they are not engaged in any productive activity. The best thing to calm down such a child is to give him/her enough opportunity to utilize their physical energy, in activities like trampoline jumping, skipping or bouncy ball jumps and if nothing just make him aware that he has a corner for himself, where you can lay a mattress and allow him to jump, roll and bounce until his energy is totally drained out. Then let him drink water and get back to his e-learning desk. This will even help him to have a better focus while learning. Do look up for online behavioural therapy programs too as they are really helpful and effective.

On the other hand, I would strongly recommend all the parents to utilize this period and well equip themselves, by learning through a few online courses that are meant for parents and teachers to help them deal with various challenges that they face while handling their kids at home or helping them to develop their knowledge and skills.

How to defeat the anxiety that is building within you, while you are at home during this terrifying COVID- 19 period?

At this point of time it is important to stay physically fit. And I strongly believe that it is essential to keep yourself mentally fit and have an emotional balance to keep yourself physically fit. However, I totally understand that, these days having an emotional balance and keeping ourselves mentally fit is a greater challenge than keeping ourselves physically fit. But how do we overcome this challenge, this fear, and this anxiety? How can we kill this worm of anxiety that is growing within us?

Firstly, calm down yourself, and reflect upon yourself. Think what is stopping you from overcoming this wave of anxiety that is flowing to and fro in your system? What is the actual barrier, which I can break through and have an emotional balance? What is stopping me from being mentally fit?

Well, now it’s the time when we all need to understand that we are the ones who have built these barriers for ourselves and only we are responsible to breakthrough this barrier for and defeat the anxiety that is building within us. And this can be achieved by following some simple steps and changing our thought process which will help us to adapt a new approach towards life.

Consider that there is a worm of anxiety sitting within you. And each time you talk about the present scenario with your friends and family, you are feeding this tiny worm. Each time you check your social media post or Wats App forwards that are full of negative statements you are helping this tiny worm to grow bigger. Every time you see the news, or check on headlines for regular updates you are just feeding this worm inside you, and it results in growing fatter and fatter. And in no time you will realize that this worm has taken over you and has started ruling you.

Hence, in this case the first step to kill this worm is stop feeding it time and again. You need not keep a check on all the possible sources all day to tap on the current status. Well, it is absolutely important to keep a tap of what’s happening around the world and be aware, but that can be done possibly once or twice a day. There is no need of following every news channel and social media platforms 24 X 7. So set rules for yourself and your family. Being at home should not stop you from leading a disciplined life. So let’s reflect upon ourselves and turn this obstacle into an opportunity. Here are a few suggestions that can help you:

Set time for keeping a tap on the current status and updates of the actions taken by the government. For instance it can be twice a day for not more than 15 min.
Spend time with your family and children. Find activities to involve them. This will help them accelerate their knowledge and skills.
Think upon what did you always wanted to do, to improve yourself. What are the areas you can work upon for your personal growth? And all you need to do is, just type that word in the search box on Google and you will see a buffet of online courses available.
Utilize this time to tap your and your children’s hidden potential. Social distancing cannot stop you from learning. Where there is a will, there is a way! So look for distance learning options as per your desire. There are amazing live interactive online training sessions that can certainly help you to upgrade your knowledge and skills. You never know, you might probably outshine after this quarantine period as you have equipped yourself with the required knowledge and skills.
Be grateful to the supreme personality that, in spite of being in such a crucial situation we are able to connect with everyone and anyone across the globe, as the present era is blessed with the internet and the latest technology that covers the distance of thousands of miles just at a click. So, make the most of the technology, to connect with your loved ones and be innovative, by having certain group sessions online. For example; do a cardio workout, yoga, play games, solve a puzzle, have a party, learn a song, or set up a dance with your friends and family using wonderful web meetings app like Zoom, Webinar, Cloud meetings, etc.
Read a book that you always wished too. Even though, you might not have this book at home, don’t worry! Fortunately, we have Google! Search for it, and you will surely find an e-version of that book. So here you go! And I am sure you will come across many other good reads while you are doing your online research. So grab this opportunity to enhance your knowledge and language too!
There are various effective online trainings available for the generation next, who at this point of time needs to divert their attention from the negativity around them and invest this time constructively and make the most of the e-learning platform. So sit with your teenagers at home and talk with them to understand their interest and identify their potential, so you can guide them to choose the right option from the ones available online. Thus this will help them to build confidence and prepare them for a better tomorrow.
Try to have a set up or a role play at home with your family as if you are to a fine dine restaurant, or probably on a picnic to the park or may be a beach party. Get everyone set in the same mood. Use the required props, dress up accordingly create that ambience and enjoy the feel.
Remember, there are things that are under your control and there are things that are probably beyond your control. So focus on things that are under your control and take complete charge of the situation. Do not wait for things to happen, rather make things happen.
And lastly, live in the moment, and enjoy your time with yourself and your families. Thinking much about what will happen, where we are heading and what is our future going to be like, will lead you nowhere other than depression. So live in present and take control of the situation with a positive approach.

STAY HOME, STAY SAFE, STAY HAPPY, STAY HEALTHY AND STAY CONNECTED!

Day: April 15, 2020

First Aid For Emotional Well-being

HELP YOUR ADOLESCENT TO HANDLE THEIR EMOTIONS WHILE THEY ARE GOING THROUGH MOOD SWINGS AT HOME.

Are you facing a challenge dealing with the children with special needs at home?

How to defeat the anxiety that is building within you, while you are at home during this terrifying COVID- 19 period?

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